Today I asked a friend of mine how she met her fiance of 13 years and she responded: “well I was staying by a cousins house and he had to go pick up a friend from the airport, so he said I can either wait for him to get back or come with him. I decided to go with him, and the minute I shook his friend’s hand we both knew that was it for both of us.”
Sound great, no? Except that moment is just a moment in all of the many moments, and many more moments that can/will/would have happened after that one moment. However, in the moment it may sound, feel, or seem great for a few minutes, maybe even seconds. What comes after that moment is a different story.
It took my friend two years after that moment to actually start a relationship, which is odd since she did say they both knew that was it at that moment. Why then wait? Well, like everything else in life, time seems to go by faster than we think and before we know it we are consumed in something completely different and our minds have put that special moment in the filing cabinet labeled: Question Mark. Because who knows after all what that moment could bring (especially when you don’t give it a chance).
It’s hard to hold on to those initial feelings, should you explore them? should you not? and then all of a sudden we are bombarded with a million “what ifs” and then in almost an instant we have reached a multiple of conclusions (depending on what type of person you are): if you are generally positive you may end up with an overload of positive ideas and emotions and if you are generally a pessimistic person you may end up thinking a lot of dark, depressing thoughts. That is not to say that you could have very well reached no conclusion at all, in which case, your fate is in your hands.
Somehow the answer to how this will end up is in that moment. A bit ridiculous how years of a relationship are all dependent on that one moment. But once you have come to that realization that moment will somehow mean so much more.
You think my friend knew that moment was really the moment? No. She can only say that looking back 15 years, the one moment that explains 13 years of a relationship, hard work, and endless commitment, is that moment they shook hands.
Now wouldn’t you look at that moment differently in the actual moment had you known it could be so amazing?