The New York Times posted an article written by Emily Kelly about her husband’s situation.
First I’d like to start with: WOW. I don’t know if it just because the younger generations are made up of people that give up before even trying but Emily Kelly really does not give up. I have never been in a relationship with someone famous but I figure it is probably a lot harder than a typical one; everything you do is on display.
I was listening this morning to Shannon talk about how she is just tired of putting on an act for people. Life is hard enough as it is to then have to put a smile on for everyone and make everyone laugh! It reminds me of that new show that Amazon Prime is streaming: The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, her life is a mess yet and that is what she talks about on the stage and everyone is laughing. In a way that is how we deal with our hard situations; we make a joke out of it and feed off other people’s laughter.
Back to Emily….
I am sure there were moments where she felt like this wasn’t fair to her and she didn’t deserve this, nor did her kids, but at the end of the day she did everything she could to help her husband. She went to doctor after doctor (and that really is not easy), moved the whole family, and got hurt by her own husband. It is not easy to remember that someone is just not okay and that is why they say certain things that are painful. In life today we expect so much from people that we cannot fathom how they can act like that and when we put in a small bit of effort and it doesn’t show results we get even more upset because ‘how could they do this to me! and I tried so hard!’ But you obviously didn’t try hard enough.
She writes in her article:
It wasn’t until I joined a private Facebook group of more than 2,400 women, all connected in some way to current or former N.F.L. players, that I realized I wasn’t alone.
Becoming a part of a group of people going through similar situations made it easier. It gives you a sense of you’re not doing this alone, there are other people out there in the world that are hurting, maybe even in situations worse off than your own. You hear about support groups for people in relationships with recovering addicts of all sorts but not as much as you hear about support groups for the people with the actual problem.
Everyone is in some situation that is affecting them, sadly the world has become a place where we cannot show those pains without being diagnosed with a disorder. Why can someone just need a hug and not a bottle of pills? I’m rambling here sorry…
I look up to Emily Kelly how she was able to say the truth. There were times they fought and times that were beautiful but at the end of the day, she put her feelings aside and looked at the bigger picture. She realized the man she loved was in pain and hurting and even though he never may have verbally expressed it, she uncovered it. She didn’t let the sharp words cause her to give up but rather she fought for who she believed in and now she is fighting for a greater cause; expressing her pain to make others aware of it.
Shannon talked about her pain to make others know that they weren’t alone.
Not giving up, talking about how you feel, not only helps your relationships and others around you but also yourself. So even if you were a completely selfish person, sharing your pain may bring about more good than you realize.