I don’t know what to do. For all of you that are parents, maybe you can help out with this one. If you have a child that reminds you exactly of yourself when you were younger, do you find that you don’t have as good of a relationship with that child?
I guess if you didn’t like the way you grew up and the decisions you made as a kid that would reflect on your liking of your child (especially, if they are doing the same things you did, that you most probably regret).
What happens if you’re the child in this situation? Do you keep trying to have a relationship with that parent?
To be honest: I am tired of trying. I know I’m too young for that, but I guess it is part of being part of the younger generation. Your relationship with your parents is VERY important and I feel like I didn’t get a fair chance just because I am a lot like her. It is true though, I wasn’t the best kid from the age of 12 till 18 BUT before that, I was their best child, did everything for them, gave unconditionally, endlessly, smiled, laughed and then life hit me hard. So… now what?
I have tried everything; being nice, starting conversation, going out of my way, controlling my responses and facial expressions, and a whole lot of other things. It’s not so simple anymore. Often, I feel as though I am willing to try and make things work but then she’s not and then when she is willing to try, I am not. It is like a seesaw.
How on earth are we ever going to be on the same level?
The only way for the seesaw to be even is if everyone gets off of it, how do we disconnect from each other enough to give us even ground to start fresh on? I guess moving out would help change things up a bit. It isn’t very comforting though because it shouldn’t have to be this way. Especially when I see everyone else around me succeeding at it. But I suppose it could be worse, I could not know at all why she felt this way.
We all are given a lot in life and how our life will turn out is dependent on what we do with that lot.
This is mine and though at times I wish it wasn’t, I am happier that it is this than something else because there are a lot worse things that people have to go through than this. I am very blessed, even if I don’t always see it so long as I try to find it I will find some sort of comfort.
But if anyone has ideas… I am open to hearing anything at this point 🙂