Everyone wants to be happy. If there was a happiness pill out there, everyone would spend however much it cost in order to get some. People want to be happy. Some people believe having all the money in the world would make them happy.
But then when you have all the money in the world and you’re not happy, you get angry because you have wasted so much of your life working to reach this point of ultimate happiness and now that you got there, you’re like where is that happiness?
Most people think they will become happy when they have something they want. For example: I’ll be happy when I am in a relationship or I’ll be happy when I build my dream home. To everyone there is a different reason of why they are not happy. That is why there is no happiness pill out there; what could make you happy, can make me miserable, and what can make me happy, can make you miserable.
So what will make you happy? Absolutely nothing that is physical. Remember that next time you tell someone who you will be happy only if xyz happens. Now, don’t get me wrong you may be happy when you get that car, girl, guy, kiss, house, whatever it is you dream of, but that is not real happiness. That is not happiness that will last when whatever physical thing you got is not around anymore. So, if nothing physical can fill this happiness void, what can?
That is a question you must ask yourself.
If it has a this, you, that, or a product in front of “makes me happy,” it is not real happiness. Food doesn’t make you happy, it makes you feel full and good inside, so you equate it to happiness because you are content and maybe not hangry anymore. A person should not be the key to your happiness, only you possess the key to make yourself happy.
As Eddie Two Hawks quotes in his blog post: “take responsibility of your own happiness, never put it in other people’s hands,” nor in the hands of other things.
If only you possess the key to your happiness then you must start looking within yourself in order to be happy. Look at what you have not what you don’t have. Look at who you are not what you are not and make yourself happy. Write down everything about you, the good, the bad, what you do and do not have, everything. Then separate the good and the bad, don’t be hard on yourself, don’t be humble, be honest; if you’re a talented author, write it down. Take notice of all the qualities you have, the things you have, and realize how blessed you are. Just take a moment and be grateful because there can be so many other things in your life that are much harder than what you are dealing with. Become comfortable with who and what you are, the baggage that comes with you but also, the gifts that make you, you.
You’ll see, you will suddenly be much happier.