Just leave me alone

say what you mean

I say it often but you have to be my better half to know when I actually mean it.

Girls tend to have this attitude about them where they will say something they don’t really mean. They will repeat over and over, get angry, frustrated, and not admit what they really want in hopes that you, as the gentleman, will actually do what they are demanding you do not do.

Guys, on the other hand, are more straightforward, they say leave me alone and they actually mean it.

It is funny when you see other girls do this because you know inside you what she’s really trying to get at.

I used to be like this but then I realized these guys are not actually going to do it if you tell them not to. So I became as straightforward as them. At first a couple of guys looked twice because you don’t usually find a girl who acts like a guy. Now, it is more like, do you actually mean that? It is like the females are such a stereotype (which I can understand) that it would be easier not to actually admit what you want and do what girls do so that you can actually get what you want. I know, twisted.

It helps to be in a relationship where the guy knows you (even more helpful when he knows you better than yourself) because this way when you say something, whether you’re acting like a girl and not really meaning what you’re saying or if you actually mean it, he will know and act accordingly.

You know what I dislike though? Because we are girls and we do this whole drama show to get what we want when we specifically say we don’t want it, we also do this thing where we won’t admit to something bothering us. Even if it has nothing to do with an argument, fight, or conversation. The fact that he could have woken up this morning and didn’t make you a coffee before he left to work, even though he had no reason in the world to because you didn’t say or imply anything, but just because you had a thought that you never expressed to him and then he didn’t do it could cause you to be annoyed at him is absolutely absurd. Then when he comes home later that day and you’re harping on something and he’s racking his brain for misunderstandings or something he did to cause you to be like this and he can’t come up with anything and you’re just repeatedly saying “it’s nothing, it’s nothing,” but it obviously must be something if it has you so annoyed. Why on earth can’t you just break out of this girl trend and just express it. Say what you hoped he had done but didn’t because not saying it will only cause it to happen again. Men want their girls happy, so if they know something bothers them or they want something good men, will do it. But the key word here is: know. They aren’t mind readers.

Quit playing the game girls are known for so that maybe for once men will actually take us seriously when we say something the first time.

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Flowers

Know what your kids need to hear

It took me a long time to get over flower and beach pictures. Why? because every single doctors office has flowers hanging on the walls. I hate looking at something so calm when I am freaking out inside. Pictures of the beach make me cringe. I was about 10 years old I think when I had my first physical at the doctor’s office. My Mother sat in the room playing with her baby as if completely oblivious to what was going on, and I went completely still as the Doctor stuck her hand in my underwear.  I will never not be grossed out of hearing “relax, close your eyes, think of the beach and the waves.” I will never picture the beach again. I was really angry at my mother for letting the doctor do that. It freaked me out. She gave me no warning whatsoever about what she was about to do! Like, hello?! Tell me you’re about to look at my vagina! After that appointment I remember the drive home where my mother said, “you can’t be so uptight around your doctor.” I didn’t respond, I was still very much freaked out how she could just sit there bouncing her kid on her lap and making him laugh as this Doctor checked me.

Obviously, this is just a normal thing, everyone gets a physical, but they also know they are getting a physical. They don’t just feel so violated like that.

I found it funny how now when I go to the doctor’s office I am so open, I strip before they even tell me I need to. I totally do not care. I find myself staring at the flower picture and trying not to get aggravated at them. I noticed that my blog posts pictures are filled with pictures of flowers. I guess it just reminds me of how everything can look so pretty and yet be a huge mess and no one would be the wiser.

It’s weird. It’s uncomfortable. Don’t put your kids through it.

But that wasn’t the point I was trying to make. What I am trying to say is that just like I can’t be so uptight with my doctor, you can’t be so uptight with your kids. There was a picture going around of Kim Kardashian topless and the photographer of the photo was her 4-year-old daughter. Some people can take that to mean Kim was trying to teach her daughter confidence (I find it completely weird, but maybe that is just because I didn’t grow up like that). There are always people you know that have that relationship with their mother/sister where they pee together, see each other naked. I am not talking about that end of the spectrum, I am simple talking about communicating with your daughter about her body. Not making her feel weird about it. Puberty age is challenging for everyone, it is awkward, don’t make it any more awkward than it needs to be. Don’t ignore what needs to be done. Don’t push-off those conversations. Being able to talk about those things with your mother will actually make the situation easier.

You’re probably thinking: obviously. But if it really was so obvious then why are kids still turning to the Internet, their friends, guys? It can really mess your kids up.

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