Make your own magic

it’s so simple

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A very sweet friend of mine gave me this awesome birthday present: The Happy Planner. I think I have spoken about it before but in case that I haven’t, IT IS A MUST BUY! For someone like me, who loves to be organized, keep lists, be focused, and on track, it really puts you in a great mood. I sat today filling it all up and it makes me happy inside. I love being organized and feeling like everything is all settled and taken care of. If you haven’t done so yet, I highly suggest it! (Also, on a side note- great present!) šŸ™‚

You know that feeling you have when the world is spinning around you and you’re trying to hold on to something but every chance you get somehow you end up attached to something else and then when you look back, you have completely forgotten what was just in your face two minutes ago? If you haven’t had that feeling than wow you’re lucky! If you have had it-I get it you’re a busy, busy person!

As I am sure you all know, I am always busy, hence my lack of blog posts. However, I am a firm believer in making time for things that matter to me (don’t ask me why there hasn’t been many blog posts though lol). Anyway, back to what I was saying: life has me hanging upside down at the moment, thankfully for good reasons though. There is one thing though… no I am not complaining… I will need surgery and it just so happens that everything is falling out all within the same two weeks (so please, forgive me in advance for the lack of blog posts). What is it that people say? It’s good to be busy? Yes, agreed, but every so often a chance to sit and hold a warm cup of tea and take a deep breath would be really wonderful.

My better half is in town this weekend and it is so refreshing seeing his clean-shaven face, (that he does specially for me- don’t you love it when they care so much about you that even the smallest of things that make you happy suddenly mean so much more coming from him?) smile, smell, and just hear his laugh. Oh, andĀ the absolute best partĀ is that I can finally put down my phone! I know it sounds odd, but long distance relationships mean always calling/texting/FaceTiming, emailing, everything that involves a screen, and I know that the new generation is all for technology but I won’t lie and tell you I like it. I prefer the silence, no phones buzzing, nothing to rush to, you know, the life you can actually enjoy? Sorry, rambling again.

To be quite honest with you all, I would love to sit here and brag about how wonderful my better half is and tell you all about the things he does for meĀ butĀ that is what the world and social media wants from all of us today. I feel as though blogging isn’t as much as social media in this regard- let me explain: social media has become a place where people plaster their life, things, people they interact with and anything they can get their hands on to show off. Since people are acting this way, followers that are having a low day, moment, period of their life, view these posts, pictures, etc. and get the wrong impression, causing them to be angry, upset, jealous. Take a simple example: say you walk into your home and your partner hadn’t taken out the trash, after you asked him and reminded him numerous times, you will get angry at them, either have a fight with them or something will just be off. Then, you go to your friend’s house and you see their partner taking out the trash… and it all goes downhill and all because of your garbage. Obviously, this was a small example, but as the saying goes, it could be the straw that broke the camel’s back. Now, take my example and fit it into the constant swiping motion our thumbs do the majority of the day, it’s all so close to you, so easy to access that it becomes less of a distraction (what I believe it was intended to be) and more of a blood boiler. Therefore, I will not brag and I will not complain, I will simply say that we all have someone who does things for us in life, you can choose to make those moments the magic between you or you can choose to make it the worlds.

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Give me a ring

say what?

When I was in high school I had a corny geography teacher. I say corny because he would make corny jokes all the time. For example, when he met his future wife for the first time he knew it was her and told her he’d give her a ring, she got so scared and he responded “you know, aĀ ring, ring, from the telephone?”

It’s kind of weird how everything happens around the same time. My co-worker was telling me how one of her friends got engaged to this rich guy and she practically designed the whole ring by herself. I have met people who do that, they know exactly what they want and they let their significant other know. However, I am not like that. It is very hard for me to decide what I like. You see, I don’t have the greatest taste (well at least that is what everyone says, I am told I have old lady taste… I guess that means when I am older I will actually be in style;) ), so when it comes down to deciding if that dress looks good or the makeup is too much I tend to second guess myself.

My better half originally told me he wanted me to have nothing to do with the ring and he would design and find something himself and I was SO relieved. It becomes so complicating when you look at rings and then you find something you like and you think that is what you’re getting and then you’re handed your ring and it is something completely different and all your hopes go crashing down… So you see I did not want to feel that way, so I was totally fine with having him decide what, when, where, and how. Turns out though he is a little too nervous that I won’t be happy with something he chooses. The truth is I will be happy with whatever he decides because 1. I have no expectations 2. he will have chosen it all by himself and I find that romantic.

Some people have that type of relationship where they tell the person what type of ring they want and others have one where they don’t. I think it says a lot about the relationship you are in. It shows if there are expectations and the way each partner deals with their expectations not being met. It’s a tricky field to be in and all I will say is that I will love that ring even if it is the last idea on this earth of what I had ever imagined simply because it’s a symbol for everything our relationship stands for.

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A meaningful present

put some time in rather than dimes

So after a very long day yesterday, I was greeted by a BIG package from my future mother-in-law.

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What was special about it though, was that it wasn’t just a store-bought gift basket filled with the usual chocolate, nuts, wine, candy, it was actually all hand-picked and she wrapped it herself. Mind you, she was a professional gift wrapper before so she has the creativity. Inside the package was all my favorite things and a really, really, sweet poem (yes, she is a professional writer too, so yes, that does make my fiance have very good genes šŸ™‚ ).

It made me really appreciate having a nice mother-in-law because gosh if I tell you how many mother-in-law horror stories I have heard…. One joke though, because once you start you can never stop: What happens when you miss your mother-in-law?

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….Reload and shoot again

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But thank God, I will hopefully never be in that situation.

The present also got me thinking about a previous conversation I had with a bunch of teenagers that were in relationships. It was around Valentine’s day and they were all asking each other what they are getting their boyfriend/girlfriend to try to help them come up with ideas. The list went from watches to ties, wallets, cufflinks, designer things, and I am just likeĀ sheesh, if I did that for every Valentine’s present I’d be poor! When they finally asked me for my opinion, I was just like, what ever happened to a handmade card? or a sentimental thing that you both shared? Why do you have to spendĀ SOĀ much money to show the person you love them? To be honest with you, the present would mean a thousand times more if you actually took the time to do something creative and not just bought the most expensive thing. One girl told me how she doesn’t know what to get him because she already bought him a really nice watch and a wallet and she spent so much money. My thoughts at that moment where: 1. you screwed yourself over because now you’re going to always feel like he is expecting something more expensive than whatever it is you gave him last and 2. there are so many more presents than just a watch and a wallet.

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Now, maybe it is because I have been in a relationship for a long time but can I just give you all some advice? Spending time on a present for a person you care about makes you care about them more and they enjoy the present more! Just be a little creative! The cost of the present and the level of happiness it will give them are not equivalent.

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So instead of making a visible hole in your wallet, make some time in your day, heart, life, and do something creative! Guess what? if you can’t think of anything you obviously have not met Pinterest.

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