CPA application process

I am on the verge of giving up.

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I have never been through something as annoying as this never-ending process. I applied in January, it is March. Yep, January, February, March, and I’d hate to jinx myself but I am pretty sure April will be on that list soon too.

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I have been studying, but I am the type of person who studies more when she knows there is a test scheduled. I used to be that type where I studied two weeks in advance of everything and was ALWAYS prepared. But after college, and dreaded high school, I just don’t care anymore. I know I should, being that these tests are like the hardest things ever.

Every time I get an email from NASBA I get a bit of hope and then I open it and I just want to die, more papers missing, more transcripts missing, more “your application is incomplete”!!!

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I got one email that got my hopes SO high, it said my application was COMPLETE!!! and then the next morning I woke up to another email saying “you are missing these documents and at this time your application is incomplete.”

Let’s just say when I called their customer service line, I wasn’t too happy. However, since I was caller #45, I had some time to cool off till I got to #1. Half hour later I finally get through to someone and boy, was she in a worse mood than me.

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I would be too if I had to answer every one of the 45 calls ahead of mine.

So here’s a heads up: doesn’t apparently matter what college you graduated from, they want EVERY SINGLE transcript from every place you ever went to, and no, it doesn’t matter that you transferred all your credits over, they want it from the source. Why couldn’t it just say that in the instructions? Also, they don’t supply any email to send your transcripts to, so the first few I did by mail, and that takes time. Call them up before you apply and ask for the email. Legit, ridiculous.

I highly suggest you start the application long before you intend to take the exam so that you can at least have time to get all the crazy amount of paperwork you somehow need in order to just SIT for the exam.

Wish me luck people, I seriously need it.

Your Editor.

Some thoughts from my weekend

there is always time for vacation

I apologize for not writing this past weekend, I have been traveling.

My trip was nice but filled with mixed emotions. Overall, I had a wonderful time with my better half. We learned the traveling system together and just rode the busses enjoying each other’s company. When you haven’t seen each other in so long, the simplest things are enough to be doing. I didn’t need no crazy activities to enjoy my time with him. We sat at a really nice hotel and people watched. It was fun and just the best way to spend the little time we had together. Sitting, enjoying each other’s company, being able to be so close that I can wrap my hands around him and take a deep breath and only smell his smell. It’s something about being able to just turn around and tell by his facial expression that he understood what I said.

I’m going to miss that. A lot.

Who knows when I will see him next… but my birthday is coming up so at least I have an idea of how long 😉

I must say though… with the wedding coming up it is going to be quiet exciting and different to actually be living together! It will be a new place for me, so I will need to find a new job. What is exciting though, is they have more culinary opportunities where we will live, so I might just be able to fulfill some of my dream one day 🙂

I am excited about apartment shopping and decorating the tiny place. It will take time to get used to cooking for two as opposed to 15 😉

My amazing interior design friend will most probably help decorating because I have no taste when it comes to that, my Pinterest board is proof of that!

Since the wedding is in the summer, I chose pastel colors for the bridesmaids and the overall color scheme. I can’t wait! It will be GORGEOUS!!

Other than that, I am getting back into work and studying… trust me, nothing fun about it. I got to get back to all the things I left undone before my little vacation.

Have a great one!

Your Editor

 

 

Balancing

learn to balance your need for protecting your child with their ability to grow into adults

I don’t know what it is about some parents but at some point they need to learn to cut the cord. You would think that once was a sign at childbirth but no. Maybe I don’t get it because I am not a parent but seriously?!

I get that you want to protect your kids and never want them to get harmed or lose their innocence, but sometimes, keeping them tied to your hip is more harmful than not.

Take a married child for example: they should not be at their parents home more than their own home. It affects their relationship with their spouse.

Some men are ‘mama’s boys’ and they are always crawling back home. This becomes a challenge for their partner/spouse because where do they fit in? I know someone who turns to their parents before their spouse. They view their spouse as…. nothing, to be honest with you I don’t even know how they got married. The spouse has no credibility, they both don’t listen to each other, and they barely spend time together. You may think I am talking about someone who has been married for 10 maybe 15 years…

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They have been married for almost two years. It wasn’t like they spent time dating either or knew each other for five years before they got married. Sadly, it looks like it. Now, I can’t say it’s all their fault, the in-laws aren’t much help either. Once your child is married you don’t get involved in the decisions they make as a couple. If they ask for advice, you can give them your opinion, but that is it!

I may look back on this post when I have my own kids one day and laugh at how crazy I sounded but I really do believe, right now that is, that there is only so much, and so long, that you can control your children.

On the flip side, the younger generations are of a different breed and they are primarily focused on their over-inflated egos, so if their parents are from a bit back, raising them and controlling them becomes a challenge.

Every kid needs a different level of control in order to help them grow into responsible adults. You can’t simply decide that because you can’t control what your child wants, and all they think about is themselves that you will just leave them alone to fend for themselves. No. Put your foot down, make them pay for their car, gas, and other desires that you do not agree with them having. Until they can meet you halfway, meaning say you have certain expectations of your child (which all parents should have because that is what will force your child to think outside their four feet) and your child has not met any of them, and I’m not talking about those parents who expect their child to do everything that when they were a kid, were unable to, I am talking about expecting your child to do their homework, help out in the house, wake up at a reasonable time etc., if your child can not do the bare minimum of your expectations, then don’t meet the bare minimum of their expectations. Depending on what home environment you come from or are building, their expectations will be different. If you have money, the child may expect that they are entitled to certain things, taking away those things will make them stop with the me, me, me, and actually think further than that moment of instant pleasure.

It is sad because it will take these kids late into their life, when possibly their parents are no longer around, to realize “wow, this attitude on life is completely self-absorbed and foolish.”

It is never too late, however, the time wasted can never be brought back. Control each kid the way they need it, in order to make them the best person they can be, not because you can’t bear to see your little baby grow up, you’re ruining them more than building them.

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A bit more happiness

just look in the mirror 🙂

Everyone wants to be happy. If there was a happiness pill out there, everyone would spend however much it cost in order to get some. People want to be happy. Some people believe having all the money in the world would make them happy.

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But then when you have all the money in the world and you’re not happy, you get angry because you have wasted so much of your life working to reach this point of ultimate happiness and now that you got there, you’re like where is that happiness?

Most people think they will become happy when they have something they want. For example: I’ll be happy when I am in a relationship or I’ll be happy when I build my dream home. To everyone there is a different reason of why they are not happy. That is why there is no happiness pill out there; what could make you happy, can make me miserable, and what can make me happy, can make you miserable.

So what will make you happy? Absolutely nothing that is physical. Remember that next time you tell someone who you will be happy only if xyz happens. Now, don’t get me wrong you may be happy when you get that car, girl, guy, kiss, house, whatever it is you dream of, but that is not real happiness. That is not happiness that will last when whatever physical thing you got is not around anymore. So, if nothing physical can fill this happiness void, what can?

That is a question you must ask yourself.

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If it has a this, you, that, or a product in front of “makes me happy,” it is not real happiness. Food doesn’t make you happy, it makes you feel full and good inside, so you equate it to happiness because you are content and maybe not hangry anymore. A person should not be the key to your happiness, only you possess the key to make yourself happy.

As Eddie Two Hawks quotes in his blog post: “take responsibility of your own happiness, never put it in other people’s hands,” nor in the hands of other things.

If only you possess the key to your happiness then you must start looking within yourself in order to be happy. Look at what you have not what you don’t have. Look at who you are not what you are not and make yourself happy. Write down everything about you, the good, the bad, what you do and do not have, everything. Then separate the good and the bad, don’t be hard on yourself, don’t be humble, be honest; if you’re a talented author, write it down. Take notice of all the qualities you have, the things you have, and realize how blessed you are. Just take a moment and be grateful because there can be so many other things in your life that are much harder than what you are dealing with. Become comfortable with who and what you are, the baggage that comes with you but also, the gifts that make you, you.

You’ll see, you will suddenly be much happier.

Your Editor

 

Did you say half?

no one is going to tell me what to call my man

I heard something interesting the other day and I am still deciding how I feel about it. If you have been following me or read a couple of my post you may have noticed that whenever I talk about my Fiance I write my better half. Now, this lady was discussing marriage with me and commented how she hates when people walk around saying “oh, my better half” or “my other half” or anything that implies you are half a person. To an extent I get it: no one is half a person, everyone should be an emotional whole person. Meaning to say, you are complete who you are without a man. Which was very apropo, as it was International Women’s Day…

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So for all those that have been thinking I am some ‘half’ a person let me just clarify: I call him that because I find it romantic. We are complete equal partners in our relationship, I don’t feel like I can’t stand up for myself and be my own person without him, and to be honest, I just dislike what she said.

Most women nowadays aren’t so dependent on men they just want men to do things for them because of all the movies that dictate what a relationship is supposed to be like. However, if put to the task, most women find that they are very capable of taking out the garbage, figuring out what to respond to a text message, taking medicine when they feel sick, and doing every other thing in their life without having to ask their mans’ opinion! To be honest with you all, I ask because I like to hear what he has to say and I enjoy including him in the decisions I make. But if it boils down to it and he isn’t there or can’t answer the phone or he says something I completely disagree with, than hell, I am making that decision on my own!

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I’m going to call him what I please and not going to let someone tell me I’m half a person because I describe him as my better half. I have more confidence than that.

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Excitement is in the air

the key is staying happy

You know when something new is happening everyone is so excited? Like, it’s fun planning a wedding (or should be at least), the engagement party, the proposal.

My better half was talking with some of his friends last night and the conversation was about what he will do after the excitement of marriage dies down. Now, can I just say something? Why does the excitement have to ever die down? I was reading a book the other day and it brought up something I found gave me mixed emotions: the priest was telling one of the participants of a divorce support group how he finds it ironic how when he gives marriage classes and everyone is falling asleep but in his divorce classes, everyone is taking notes. I know people don’t get married thinking about getting divorced. Actually, I take that back, now a days people get married while planning their divorce. There are people out there that have hidden bank accounts just waiting for the day they get divorced. But why can’t people just put their all into their marriage. Instead they are splitting themself either in half or 30/70 or some other percentage and not giving their undivided attention to building and being a part of a relationship. It takes a lot of work, effort, time, commitment to have a successful relationship so if you’re so busy splitting your attention between your relationship and the end of your relationship, it will never last.

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It’s so pathetic.

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(side note: if you have not watched The Good Wife, you are missing out on an unbelievably, genius TV show- the character in the gif above is one of the actors)

Overhearing my better half’s conversation got me thinking about all of this and also the reason why I started this blog in the first place. The name is Forever Day One for a reason; I want the rest of my life to be as exciting as the first day I started anything I was looking forward too. There is no reason in the world why every morning I shouldn’t wake up with the same enjoyment. I get it, life gets hectic, it’s hard out there. But at the end of the day we are all going through life anyway, why on earth won’t we just make the most out of it?

The answer may be because that would require us to be constantly focusing on the positive. Now, I am not perfect and I have my mean, bitchy days but at the end of it, or throughout the day if I did not try to bring whatever it is I screwed up around back to the happy place it was before, then I have failed to live that day as a gift. We all feel so blessed when we encounter things we don’t generally deserve or things we have worked up to in our life but then we get sick of it. We become that four-year old boy who has been begging his parents for a new truck, finally get it, plays with it for a week, maybe a month, and then forgets about it. Marriage is not like that. You can’t just marry someone, have fun with them, get used to them, and then three months later find a new toy to play with. You have to find ways to make yourself the ‘toy’ no one wants to ever stop playing with.

Which is hard to do. There is always someone who will be more attractive, successful, motivated, wealthier, than you. But as long as you remember why you started out with someone, other people in the world won’t matter. Don’t focus on who is out there, focus on what is in you, how far can you go? If you concentrate on that, I will tell you that you won’t be faced with what will life be like after the excitement of marriage dies down, rather you will be confronted with what excitement will today bring that wasn’t here yesterday? 

It is more than just living every day to the fullest. Like I wrote in My Dream, asking yourself how hard you worked today and not going to sleep until you’ve done all that you can, can be applied to this; how much effort did you put into your relationship today so that it can feel like it felt the first day you met your partner/spouse?

All it takes it the desire to make life beautiful and when any relationship starts out, all they should be focusing on is the beauty, not the divorce papers.

Make every day better than the first day.

Your Editor

More than just afraid of the unknown

when you’re irrationally afraid of something you have never experienced

Where do I begin?

I don’t know what it is about childbirth but I am petrified, most people are though. However, I am afraid at a whole new level. When I found out my sister was pregnant, for about the last 4 months of her pregnancy I had nightmares every night. I would wake up drenched in a pool of my own sweat. I didn’t ever go anywhere with her alone and when I did I held my breath until someone came back or we returned. I couldn’t stand the idea of her water breaking and me being the only one there to deal with the situation. Legit, petrified.

I did a lot of things to distract myself but some nights I was afraid to go to sleep because I didn’t know what nightmare I would have and I didn’t want to think about it anymore.

So, when I had to rearrange all my plans last night and come rushing home to deal with the kids while my parents ran to the hospital, I did my very best to think about everything but my mother. I really don’t know what it is or why I am so afraid. My sister ended up having a very, understatement, traumatic birth experience. I wasn’t there to witness it but gosh her face had red splotches from all the blood vessels she popped.

I haven’t had any nightmares for about 5 months now (about giving birth) and I will not begin to let my mind wander down that road because it is the last place I want to be. My better half mentioned last night that we may need to go for counseling when we get pregnant. I think most people take classes and what not, but he is probably right, I may need a little more breathing lessons than others 😉 .

I guess I will let you know when I get to that point in my life 🙂

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